Yay! I went on this camping trip with my class (all girls) as like an end of the school year thing and on the last night i told them all. I finally decided that i knew my sexual orientation (after like forever of questioning myself) thats why I wanted come out and also because my whole class got really close to each other over the trip so i thought it was the right time.
We were sitting around this camp fire and i just said "guys I have something to tell you all" and everyone got pretty quiet but still kind of talking. then i said "im bisexual" and like everyone was totally quiet. i told them that i like guys and girls but mainly girls. and i told them that i wasnt a freaky perv who watchs them change in the locker room and stuff. and they all gave me hugs and said that it doesnt change what they feel about me at all except they feel closer. one of the girls said that if any one had a problem with me being bi than the entire class would stand up to them for me. I was soooo happy and felt very free to be out.
But then, like a week after we got home, one of my friends who isnt in my class tells me that some people who i didnt tell about being bi knew about it MONTHS before i came out. So one of my so-called friends must have spilled my biggest secret before i was ready for anyone knowing. and those people who they told apparently have been making fun of me behind my back, which is stupid and dumb. and they call me "the lesbian girl".
and now that im out, people make jokes. they think its ok just to use my sexual orientation to make someone laugh.
and also, when this guy asked out my best friend, we were at a party and the only place that was private was the bathroom, so me and my friend went in there to talk. we talked about the guy asking her out and then when we came out of the bathroom the guy looked really mad and went in the bathroom and slammed the door really hard. i think he thought i was like... stealing his girl or something. so.. great.
I thought it would be better being out. I'm not sure if it is.
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Two things...
First: High five. Good for you, you took the leap!
Second: It does get better. The idiots will still be there, but as time passes you will get stronger, and it will matter less and less. So hang on, be strong, and don't let 'em get you down.
Congrats again!
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I second Inkblot.
I second Inkblot. Congratulations, first of all, cause coming out is fucking hard, especially to that many people, and it takes a lot of guts. Be proud of yourself. And unfortunately, there are idiots out there. They'd still be stupid even if you weren't out, and you'd still stand there and watch them be stupid. It's just that, when you're out, it can be a little more direct. You've just gotta deal with it and be content that there are still a bunch of people on your side. And more than that, now that you see all this idiocy and ignorance, you can do your part to fight it. Even if you make one person a little less closeminded, you've done something--made things better for one more person still in the closet trying to come out. It will get better, especially if you do something to help it. Keep the faith, and good luck!!!!
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